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I am a firm believer that if we want to improve community responses to harm over relying on the state (police, lawyers, prisons, etc), then we need to get comfortable ‘getting [...]

I grew up raised by Israeli Jews (and I am an Israeli Jew myself). In my family we were always taught to speak our minds, that debate is healthy, and to always stand up for ourselves. We are not [...]

Halloween is coming and with it all its scary costumes and fear based tropes. But you know what is actually scary? Conflict. No costumes necessary. For some, there is truly nothing scarier! [...]

We’ve all witnessed and participated in social media conflicts, and probably even bullying. Online conflicts are a hostile place and often where de-escalation skills go to die (in my humble [...]

“What can I use your conflict coaching for”? This is a question I’ve gotten a lot lately, so I thought I’d take the time to provide a response. Coaching is a huge buzz [...]

When we notice tensions rising, we too often avoid bringing it up instead of acknowledging it. We sit on it and it just grows, until we can no longer contain it. Have you been there? I thought [...]

One of the scenarios I most often get asked to work through with participants at my training or coaching sessions is dealing with conflict online.  The internet has become its own unique platform [...]

Is all conflict healthy? Should I always embrace it? I don’t really know who came up with this idea but I see it everywhere! Conflict is inevitable and has the power to change us and our [...]

When somebody hurts us, it can bring up a lot of really intense feelings and dysregulation. It can cause us to endure a lot of stress or go into states of crisis. It is not uncommon for feelings [...]

I’ve been thinking a lot about social anxiety in communities, social circles, work places, etc. It seems like it’s a hot discussion topic right now and that everyone ‘has it’. Me saying that is [...]